Wednesday, 5 February 2014

Dealing with Ghosts of the Past

Why does the past intimidate people? Why do harsh events continue to affect a person’s way of life? Is there a way to continue with a healthy life without having to reflect on what is already dealt with?

Yes, there definitely is a way to get rid of such thoughts. If you ask yourself if you can get over with what is already dealt with, you must also ask yourself if the situation has really been resolved or not. Guilt and shame are the two major feelings that play a part in determining whether you felt guilty or ashamed by any past incident. If you still feel the same way, then you must work to resolve the matter, otherwise it will continue to haunt you.

Take the example of a child who has scored poor grades in the exams. If the marks were called out in the school in front of everybody, the child may become upset for a while. However, this situation is particularly dangerous when you look at the future course for this youngster. Chronic depression could be a repercussion of such a situation, because the individual was made to feel guilty and ashamed.


Resolving the matter has to come from within. You have to work proactively at digging out the roots of the problematic situation and changing your self-image. Just facing the issue often gives you the confidence you need to forget about it. Once you have come to terms with something, it cannot hurt your pride.  

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